I wonder how many people in this world who has live their whole life without knowing that what they believe is not totally true, and they might have misunderstood someone they love and shut the door because of a silly misunderstanding.
I believe that there is always a two side stories, and many trouble originated from a minor misapprehension and most of the time is unintentionally. If this doesn’t clear up or resolve, and just kept it in our heart, when time goes by, and all those minor little mistakes or faults have became something intolerance, like a snowball effect. What we missing here is – communications and the benefit of doubt. We have take things for granted especially on those whom we love and close to ourselves. Don’t jump to a conclusion because you know him / her well, may be next time you should look into his / her eye and answer to yourself that you are 100% know what he / she is thinking about. Even though, you understand him / her enough, but this might change when we grow older, or because of engaging in different social group or some experience that changes you. In my opinion, the key point is staying connected at all time in which it can achieve by sharing quality time together, effective communication.
When is the last time you have a heart to heart talk to your love one? When is the last time you felt content of what you have? When is the last time you have enjoyed an activity together? When is the last time you felt you are living again, not a zombie or robot? There are thousand of excuses but there is also a simple reason for you to do something, just a simple effort, such as have a walk, catch a movie, share a dessert, something you both feel comfortable. No one’s life is smooth and happy all the time, there is always up and down. However, our braveness and right attitude towards life can change a lot of things, even could get you through the darkest night. One of my favorite phases which I used it as a reminder for not being frustrated or disappointed when thing doesn’t turn up the way I want - “Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain”, it is something for you to ponder.
Conclude the above, misunderstanding can be solved by communications, and it is a life long learning subject, and don’t get defeat for nothing, and fight for your happiness and influence yours love one too, be positive. Wish all of us could dance proudly even in a heavy rain.
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有时我在想，在这个世界上有多少人活了一辈子却不知道自己所相信的并不完全属实。譬如说，有些人因为一个很小的误会，而把自己心爱的人从此关在心门外。
我相信每件事情的发生都有它的俩面，而且很多的问题都出自于词不达意所造成的误会。如果这些烦杂琐碎的小问题都一直摆在心理面而不拿出来说，那么久而久之这些一点一滴的困扰就会越积越多并越滚越大，变成一粒大雪球一发不可收拾。我想这里缺乏的是沟通，和给对方一个解释的机会。我们也常常认为如果对方爱你就理所当然的应该为你做这些事情。你也千万不要认为你对她了如指掌而一味的自以为是，下次不妨看着她的眼睛而对自己说，我百分之一百的了解眼前的这个人。或许你会发现她已不完全是你知道的那个人了，人往往会因为本身经历的事，环境和朋友圈子的改变而有所不同。所以呢，我觉得两个人在一起一定要常常好好的沟通，这样才能步伐一致的走下去。
扪心自问你和你的爱人最后一次谈心是什么时候?最后一次觉得有她在你身边就满足又是什么时候?最后一次开开心心的玩是什么时候?最后一次感觉你的心是跳跃的，而不是例长公事又是什么时候呢?或许为了生活，我们都被琐碎繁杂的事物而吞没了，没有了情趣，没有了对生活的热诚，没有了随心所欲的感觉。但其实如果两人有心的话，小小的活动或贴心的举动都能让彼此感觉到爱与被爱，比如说两个人一起看场彼此都喜好的电影，在优雅的环境下喝个下午茶，静静地一起在公园或海边看书，不管是什么活动最重要的是彼此都能享受着。没有一个人的生活是风平浪静的，生命总有起起落落，悲欢离合，数不尽的烦恼。但我相信正确的人生观，积极的态度可以改变很多东西，也能帮你渡过重重的难关。很喜欢这句话，“人生不是乞求难过的日子快点过去，而是能积极的在逆境中跳着舞渡过”。
希望天下的有情人不要因为误会而轻易的放弃手上的幸福，无论碰到什么难题都一定要静心的听完对方的解释才下定论，一定要好好的沟通，不要觉得事事都是理所当然的。沟通是一门学问，需要不断的学习和练习，保持乐观的态度，好好守着你们的幸福。愿所有的人都能在大雨中自信的跳着舞!
